Lessons in Love

Posted by on 13 Jul 2009 | Tagged as: family, friends, soapbox, wifehood

If we lose the time before us
The future will ignore us
We should use it, we could use it, yeah
Lessons in love

Ah, Level 42. They had some good songs.

I use that quote because that’s something I should keep in mind.

The caretaker thing is a sine wave that I’m doing my best to navigate.

Through this experience, I’ve learned a lot about who our real friends are, and who they aren’t. Sad to say I was dismayed by some people who simply weren’t who they professed to be.

Speaking of professing, I learned recently on Livejournal that some women really don’t like it when women express contentment with housewifery. My satisfaction and fulfillment was taken as me being condescending. Frustrating, but I finally walked away from the discussion.

I never thought as a kid that I’d end up where I am. I wanted to be the single career woman.
However, I wasn’t going to deny the fact that I’d fallen in love with my soul mate. I’m proud of the life we’ve built together over these past dozen years. Times haven’t been easy lately, but if I weigh everything, I’m still happy with my life.

I also understand why so many couples get divorced–they haven’t taken the time to understand their partner, and then life throws a monkey wrench into things, and they don’t know how to adapt properly.

Being a good spouse takes a lot of work. It requires you to get out of your own head and learn how someone else’s mind works. That’s an incredibly huge task, and it’s no wonder a lot of (government-sanctioned) marriages end in divorce.

Don’t marry someone unless you know they’ll really be there when times are tough, and that you’ve got what it takes to do the same thing back. Think about it–would you still want to stay married if your spouse got hit by a car on the way to the reception and will need a caregiver for your whole marriage? Would your intended spouse do the same for you?

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of a wedding. At first, I was looking forward to planning a wedding. Then I started to think about the complications having a wedding would bring up. Not to mention the fact that we really didn’t have the money to throw a wedding. When it was clear that I’d do most of the planning alone, I realized I wanted to be married more than I wanted a wedding. So, we eloped on our last full day of vacation in Maui.

I guess that’s enough rambling. I figured these thoughts were best written on this blog.

Wifey-type post

Posted by on 25 Jun 2009 | Tagged as: caretaker, family, wifehood

Been doing the caretaker thing for my husband, who has some health issues.

I didn’t expect to do this after 9 years of marriage. I thought I had 20 years before I’d have to go through this.

Tough sometimes, but it’s all a part of what I signed up for when I got married.

Solar Power on a Shoestring

Posted by on 20 May 2009 | Tagged as: father sun, green, nature, pictures

(or, “Gee, it’s great being married to a nerd!”)

Solar power on a shoestring

Solar power on a shoestring

This is our first attempt at a small scale solar power system.

We can use this to power things like our computers, lights, the TV, and the stereo. You can also use this as a car battery charger, if your car battery dies and the electricity’s out.

French onion soup, 1st attempt. :)

Posted by on 10 May 2009 | Tagged as: cooking, hobbies

My first attempt at french onion soup

My first attempt at french onion soup

Friday afternoon…

Posted by on 08 May 2009 | Tagged as: nature, soapbox

My neighbor has some beautiful lilacs, and she brought me some cuttings. I put them in 3 different places, and we’ll see if they decide to grow. 🙂

The Spring Ant Wars have been a bit easier this year.
I do a lot more spraying when there’s an invasion than I used to. I know the spots they like to come in, so I’ll hit every single spot when I see signs of an invasion.

Trying to get health care without insurance in the USA is a real pain. In a small town, it’s even worse, because the staff act like they’re doing us a favor by even existing. *sigh*

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